There’s one thing that binds Sweety from Sonu Ke Titu Ki Sweety, Karishma from Hasee Toh Phasee, and Chiku from Pyaar Ka Punchnama 2. They’re portrayed as controlling girlfriends. The controlling girlfriend is a trope that’s tried and examined in Bollywood. Firmly rooted in misogyny, it’s problematic for its sexist portrayal.
There are quite a few Bollywood films, not simply these three, which use the trope of the controlling girlfriend. Regardless of totally different titles, all of those films make use of the same method. Listed here are a few of them:
A) the girl is proven as the foundation of all evil, whereas the person is proven as having no company of his personal,
B) all of them are comedies of types with jokes that sound straight out of WhatsApp forwards, or are rooted in misogyny,
C) womankind wreaks all havoc on males and the person, lastly, turns into a messiah determine with a monologue within the climax (which is used to relate males’s woes for all of the upcoming years).
Let’s begin with Sonu Ke Titu Ki Sweety. Titu has no clue about his life and he all the time finally ends up with the “mistaken” ladies. Thoughts you, Titu is a younger man and never a baby. Enter Sweety. A lady who’s portrayed as crafty by Titu’s buddy (Sonu) however she encapsulates all of the qualities an ‘adarsh bahu‘ ought to have. In line with Sonu, Sweety makes Titu and his household dance to her tunes. A lot to his displeasure who thinks she is the foundation of all evil. In the meantime, she solely needs a healthful relationship together with her companion.
One other instance is from Hasee Toh Phasee. Karishma is in a relationship with Nikhil. They’re quickly going to get married to one another. However Karishma is somebody who all the time threatens her boyfriend that she would break up with him over something and every part that may irritate her.
Fully agreeing with the truth that these three ladies have been poisonous and annoying companions. However the issue is when the identical trope is used for ladies who’ve cheap calls for. For eg: when Trisha, in Shaadi Ke Aspect Results, simply needs her husband’s assist with their little one but she is painted because the ‘unhealthy man’.
The jokes made on the expense of the controlling girlfriend in these films solely vilify ladies. In line with these jokes, ladies are crafty and evil. The jokes and the dialogues indicate that males are at risk due to these ‘fashionable’ girlfriends. Ladies and their rightful troubles are simply feminism nakhras. The monologue delivered by the male messiah on the climax solely echoes this identical sentiment that males have extra woes by the hands of ladies.
If there may be one character in latest occasions who rightly deserves to ship a monologue about their controlling companion, it’s Preeti. Sadly, the woman wasn’t even given sufficient traces within the movie.
No matter gender, nobody ought to put up with a controlling companion. Within the tryst of portray ladies as the foundation of all evil, these films strip males of their proper and company to depart a relationship. The ‘bechara‘ boyfriend places up with unjustified behaviour within the identify of “love”. A naked minimal in any romantic relationship is when your companion respects you and treats you as an equal. If that’s lacking, it’s a purple flag large enough to finish that relationship.
She’s proper. It begins underneath the garb of jokes.
“arrey mein toh mazaak kar raha tha / thi aur tum bura maan gaye”
Nip it within the bud. Outline boundaries. https://t.co/U4I0MEIn7H
— Kaveri 🇮🇳 (@ikaveri) August 25, 2022
The controlling girlfriend trope impacts ladies on a deeper stage. These characters type the crux of all jokes and ladies worry exhibiting any behaviour that’s much like these characters, for the worry of being labelled as a ‘controlling’ girlfriend. In poisonous relationships, ladies worry expressing their wants, needs, and troubles for the worry of coming throughout as this inventory character.
The lads in these films may have simply come out of those relationships just by refusing to stick with ladies whose behaviour comes throughout as ‘obnoxious’ to them. When ladies the world over are struggling to be handled as equal to males, the controlling girlfriend trope solely reeks of an anti-women sentiment.